But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.
On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.
Figures suggest ten million matches a day are made on Tinder, with the immense popularity of the app landing 27-year-old co-founders Justin Mateen and Sean Rad a coveted spot on the Forbes 2014 30 Under 30 list among the world's brightest young stars.
And although slim and stylish enough in clothes, he was hardly love’s young dream (or even geriatric dream) when stripped down to black underwear. Here were beta-blockers, statins, warfarin and paracetamol, the standard nightly pharmacopeia of today’s elderly male. He swallowed all his pills, plumped up his pillows and to get into the mood opened his version of hard porn: the New Scientist!
Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many 50-somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way — through friends or family. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.
Of course, there’s no one-size-fits-all, but their number one criteron make sense to us: an emphasis in profile questions on mutual interests and honest self-representation over looks and sexual prowess. As to the “why” behind the lack of date-nights, nearly 60 percent say they don’t need a relationship to be happy. More than 40 percent said they were considering it, but not actually doing it. Relax, take a deep breath and follow some of these tips to help you through. First dates can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never met, or have had minimal face-to-face contact.