The problem is that as neither of you has 'defined' your relationship, or taken the plunge and made a move, neither of you need to be 'committed' to the relationship either.
This then means that someone else could easily come along and try and make a move on your friend and they might end up in a relationship with them.
At this stage you are 'more than friends' and there is an underlying understanding between you that something might happen though neither of you has likely said it.
While this is a great opportunity it is also a dangerous one.
You are somewhere between a friendship and a committed relationship. It just simply means there is no middle of the road.
Part of this is because if you are a Christian and are in a committed relationship, the next step should be marriage. So instead, they stay in this middle of road, the safe place. Biblically, Christians have no reason to casually date.
So why would anyone want to be in a friendationship? Why would anyone want to be in a relationship whether friend or romantic without knowing where you stand and where you are going? I was so amazed at how many people are in these relationships. So many singles are afraid to take the next step in their relationship.
But to do so in this situation can be risky as without any confirmation on the situation it can be easy to read the signs wrongly.
The lack of a name for your relationship can be incredibly frustrating, especially when one of your prying relatives inquires about your love life at a family function.
I found it easiest to say I was single, even when I wasn't exactly single — I was just in a relationship that was pre-exclusive.
There are the types of people in the world who are quick to jump into calling someone their boyfriend/girlfriend after a few dates.
Then there are the types of people in the world (like me) who never know how many dates it will take for it to be appropriate to call someone your boyfriend (or girlfriend)… I’m dating this guy who is basically my boyfriend, but he is my non-boyfriend — a term I used when we were non-exclusive, and a term I continue to use even though we are now exclusive. Plus: Navigating The Map Of Whore Island What is a Non-BF? You can call many guys you’ve dated a Non-BF, referencing anyone that you are seeing consistently but isn’t your BF.