When it comes to sending messages many people freak out.
They want to say online dating sites give you profiles to work with.
“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.
More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.
Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.
I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.
Some guys think that it’s cool to copy and paste and throw out a message like bait in a lake full of carp. I’d like to say there’s no right or wrong way to message someone (everyone usually has something that works for them), but there is definitely a better way.By the way, complimenting a woman on her personality is not being done often, so you’ll definitely stand out.Also keep in mind that bad grammar, spelling mistakes and poor language are huge turnoffs.Sure, it’s a pain to actually read through profiles and send unique messages to each person, but aren’t you here to find a date?Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué.